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I Only Have You

"I am an old man," Nasser Abu Said says, 37-years old, "to me it is no longer important, but what about my children? Don’t they have the right to life, the right to grow up in safety and with some joy?"

Abu Said Family. Photo: Vera Macht
Abu Said Family. Photo: Vera Macht

(GAZA) - "I only have you to count on. From now on, my children depend on you ". This is the desperate call of a man who sees no way out for himself and his children, and we ISM members who came to his phone call, receive it in helpless silence. It is not the first time that we visit this family, and every time we go home more horrified.

The last time we were there was on the 14th July 2010, a day after his wife died. Was murdered, there is no other way to say it. Nasser Jabr Abu Said lives in Johr al-Dik, 350 meters away from the border with Israel.

On the evening of the 13th July, Nasser's wife was in the garden with two other women from the family when they were fired at with artillery shells from a nearby tank. With flechette shells, which explode in the air so that 5 to 8000 nails shoot out of them, piercing everyone and everything in a cone of 300 by 100 meters. It is an illegal weapon.

Nasser's wife was not injured, but the shoulder of Nasser's sister was wounded, and the leg of the third woman, Sanaa Ahmed Abu Said, 26. The family took shelter in the house and called an ambulance, which was unable to approach because it was stopped by machine gun fire from the nearby Israeli soldiers.

At this point, the 33-year old wife of Nasser, Nema Abu Said, realized that the youngest of her children, Nader, was asleep in the garden. As Nema ran outside to bring him to safety, she and her brother-in-law were pierced by the nails of another flechette shell. It took four endless hours until the ambulance finally got the permission to help the family, by then Nema had died.

When we first visited the family, no one had yet had the heart to explain to Nader that his mother had died. He kept asking for her while we were there. But how do you explain something like that to a three years old child? But when we came this time, all the children knew only too well what had happened.

Nasser Abu Said outside the shrapnel-riddled home
where his wife, Ne’ema, was killed by Israeli artillery.

Nasser explained that he could no longer live in the house because the almost daily incursions, bombs and shootings have destroyed their damaged psyche so much further that they wake up every night screaming from nightmares, having wetted the bed. UNRWA rented a tiny apartment for the family - right next to the cemetery where the mother is buried. "I couldn’t get my children away from their mother's grave. It happened more and more that I suddenly noticed at night that one of the children had gone, and I found them crying in the cemetery, I knew I couldn’t stay there any longer”, Nasser told us.

His alternative is disconcerting. He has pitched a tent funded by the Red Cross, a few hundred meters away from his old house. The Red Cross also brought three blankets, when Nasser requested more aid he was told that he had already been helped. UNRWA told that they could not finance a new house. Although they also recognized that the danger was too great to stay in the old house, the old house would first have to be destroyed. Before the house is destroyed, they don’t act.

In this tent, amid the rain of the winter, Nasser now sleeps with his four sons and his daughter, 3, 5, 8, 9 and 10 years old. On only two mattresses, because he has to burn the old mattresses every few weeks, since every night they are wetted by the children. There is not enough money for new mattresses, as well as for a sufficient amount of blankets, clothes and school uniforms for the children, and for their transportation to school. He doesn’t dare to send them to school before it’s light, which means that they miss two hours of lessons every day.

"They urgently need psychological care," says Nasser quietly, he didn’t know where to start when we asked him what he needed the most. They had psychological care, for a short while, the psychologist diagnosed that they remained mentally in the state in which they were when their mother died. When a few days ago the bombs fell, one of them near the house, the children screamingly woke up their father.

They need the continuous care of their father, but that is not the only thing that prevents him from earning money. Nasser can’t farm his land any more, it was too often flattened, it is situated mainly in the inaccessible buffer zone, and he lacks the resources to be able to start farming the rest of his land. He doesn’t have the money for seeds to plant something. "I would love to plant eggplants again, cabbage and watermelons. Also sheep would be a big help. But my water system is completely destroyed from the bombs, and I lack the money to rebuild it."

"I am an old man," Nasser Abu Said says, 37-years old, "to me it is no longer important, but what about my children? Don’t they have the right to life, the right to grow up in safety and with some joy?"

“From now on, my children depend on you,” this sentence stays in your mind. And so I do what is in my power. I write about it. Nasser's misery concerns all of us. This wasn’t fate, that wasn’t a natural disaster. A few years ago, Nema and Nasser Abu Said were a happy and content family.


From Dr. Gabriele Weber in Freiburg, South Germany:

Vera and the other young activists who work for the International Solidarity Movement, ISM, in Gaza, do it on volunteer basis without earning a single penny. In fact most of their expenses have to be covered by themselves. They are mostly students and only get some support for transportation costs and rental charges. There is no money left for emergency cases like new victims of Israeli attacks in the Buffer Zone who need urgent medical treatment and so on. They even can not afford to buy new mattresses for the family mentioned in Vera's article.

I myself am convinced that the work these young people are doing is incredibly admirable and should be supported by us as much as we can. Day by day they are witnessing horrible crimes committed by the Israeli army and the least we can do is to help them financially.

Below you will find Vera´s German bank account details. As I am mainly launching this appeal in Germany, where I can reach many people, we decided to collect all the money on this account and then transfer it to Gaza. This will be less expensive. Fortunately my friend, writer Gilad Atzmon, supports this appeal and lends us his Jazza Productions PayPal account for donations from abroad. THANK YOU SO MUCH, GILAD!

So everybody from abroad can use the JAZZA Productions PayPal account, which will be open for our purpose until the 15th of March

We will collect money there and send it to Gaza in one amount.

Please spread this appeal as widely as you can, in order to help Vera and her friends and thus also the people in Gaza.

THANK YOU ALL in advance!


Gabi Weber, Freiburg, South Germany

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