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A Mother Does Not Forget Her Children: First March on Washington for Mothers of Lost ChildrenCoral Anika Theill Salem-News.com
A nation is not conquered until the hearts of its women are on the ground. Then it is done, no matter how brave its warriors, nor how strong their weapons. - Cheyenne Proverb
(SALEM, Ore.) - Mothers of Lost Children http://mothers-of-lost-
President Barack Obama will be presented a booklet that includes numerous stories of loving mothers who have lost custody of their children in America's courts. My own story is included in this booklet. (1)
Oprah Winfrey often states on her program, "America is the safest place in the world for women." Tens of thousands of mothers in America would be quick to disagree with Oprah's words. We bear invisible, but permanent battle wounds from years of abuse in America's family court system. Our mental scars and years of court documentation prove that seeking safety in America often costs more than money. The price of safety in America has been too high for all of us - it cost our children and our right to be a mother.
Charles Pragnel, Child/Family advocate writes, "The law in the U.S.A. and its implementation by the Courts represents the will and the wishes of the people of America.
It is important therefore that every American is aware of what is happening in their name.
Mothers of Missing Children
I realize I live in a very sick and twisted society and it hurts.
By the time my children are young adults, the intense brainwashing and proselytizing that they have been subjected to has left its mark. They do not want anything to do with me, the one who sought safety for them years ago. I do not blame them for their feelings of indifference toward me. Many children who live with their abusers suffer from Stockholm Syndrome http://web2.airmail.net/
Their pastors and school teachers have, unfortunately,
Forcibly taking a mother's children, and then controlling her emotionally by withholding contact must be publicly recognized as one of the greatest forms of 'mis-use' of the American justice system and one of the the greatest hidden vehicles for wide-spread socially approved physical and emotional abuse and control.
Dr. Clarissa Estes writes, 'A culture that requires harm to one's soul in order to follow the culture's proscriptions is a very sick culture indeed.' I think this is true. By obeying the Order of the Court, I betrayed my soul, my children and myself. I was forced to make a choice that no mother should ever be forced to make.
The last few years, I have found some comfort connecting with support groups i.e, Mothers of Lost Children http://mothers-of-lost-
There are numerous excellent sites that promote healing, enlightenment and awareness of abuse and exploitation. One of my favorites sites is Sanctuary for the Abused http://abusesanctuary.
Unless we speak out against the injustices in our society, we become accomplices to the individuals and institutions that are an obstacle to women and children's wholeness, safety and wellness.
Our judicial system is a product of the community we live in. The courts represent the prevalent views regarding women and children in our communities. Their judgments are a reflection of the patriarchal religious structure of this country today. The judges are the instruments of the local community "seizing the moment of power" that has been given to them. Although many people were appalled and shocked by the removal of my nursing baby per Court Order, the community stood by, watched and did nothing.
I hope and pray President Barack Obama and Vice-President Joe Biden will not only listen to us, but that they will hear us and take action.
"Sentinent without action is the ruin of the soul." - Edward Abbey
A judge's signature on a white sheet of paper can be a shattering experience for an individual. I believe judges in America will continue to use their absolute power until people wake up from their "huddled fear." When society responds from a higher state of consciousness spiritually and emotionally, they will desire a justice system that uses emotional and intuitive energy.
Until then, our judicial system is best described by the slogan, "America - where the criminal is protected and the victim harassed."
(1) Battered Mothers Take Custody Battles to White House
Upon completion of writing this article, I received a beautiful Mother's Day gift in the mail. Dr. Mo Therese Hannah sent me her newly published book she co-authored with Barry Goldstein, J.D., Domestic Violence, Abuse, and Child Custody: Legal Strategies and Policy Issues, published by Civic Research Institute, Inc., Kingston, New Jersey, Copyright 2010, ISBN 1-887554-76-9
“This comprehensive book is a gift to the cause of justice not only for victimized women and children but for anyone who cares about the integrity of law itself. The American legal system has for too long facilitated the very violence it purports to forbid, often allowing abusive men to use the courts to punish women and children who speak out against child sexual abuse and domestic violence. Mo Hannah and Barry Goldstein have created a desperately needed manual that will empower generations of victims to fight back. My favorite section is the one that reminds us of the obvious: 'Therapy is Not the Answer' to violence. The stories of injustice in this book will shock you, and make you cry--but keep reading. Abusers are hoping you won't pay attention because it will be too painful. Prove them wrong by reading this book again and again and again--and share it with everyone who needs to know the truth.” - Wendy Murphy, JD, New England Law-Boston; author of And Justice For Some
I met Dr. Mo Therese Hannah, my friend and fellow supporter, through the publication of Tim King's Mother's Day article on my life story, May 12, 2007. Please read Dr. Hannah's review of BONSHEA: Making Light of the Dark at http://amazon.com
Woman, Church and State: A Historical Account of the Status of Woman Through the Christian Ages with Reminiscences of the Matriarchate by Matilda Joslyn Gage, 1893, reprinted by Arno Press Inc, 1972
"The scope, breadth, depth, and powerful, no-holdsbarred writing style make Woman, Church, and State my favorite book of all that I have reviewed. It has taken academia, and only the most radical, feminist pockets of academia at that, 100 years to catch up with Gage. If this work was published today, it would be considered radical. As I read this work, I laughed, I cried, and I grew angry. You cannot walk away from this work without having strong emotions - whether positive or negative, for good or bad, is for you to say. Many of the ideas that it contains are I at first considered too radical. But, often, after some reflection, I had to admit that she spoke the truth.
I urge everyone to read Gage's Woman, Church, and State in its entirety. http://www.pinn.net/~sunshine/
"Peace is Loud" - Pray the Devil Back to Hell http://www.youtube.com/watch?
(1) NEWS ARTICLES at Salem-News.com on Coral Anika Theill's life and published book, BONSHEA.
May 10, 2009: Oregon Should Consider Coral Theill on Mother's Day - Tim King Salem-News.com Feb. 26, 2010: "The Gift of Healing is Our Birthright - What an Advocate Looks Like" - Coral Anika Theill Special to Salem-News.com
Coral Anika Theill, advocate and survivor is author of "BONSHEA: Making Light of the Dark." Her book and articles have encouraged and inspired numerous trauma victims and wounded Marines/soldiers recovering from PTSD. Coral's positive insights as a survivor have also earned the respect of clinical therapists, advocates, attorneys, professors and authors. Coral Theill believes a great deal of information exists for survivors. See: 'The Gift of Healing is Our Birthright - What an Advocate Looks Like' - Coral Anika Theill for Salem-News.com.
Coral Anika Theill’s published book, BONSHEA, has been used as a college text for nursing students at Linfield College. BONSHEA: Making Light of the Dark by Coral Anika Theill can be ordered at: iuniverse.com, barnesandnoble.com or amazon.com. Read 12 five star reviews at: barnesandnoble.com Email Coral Theill at: email@example.com
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