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May-10-2009 01:51printcomments

Oregon Should Consider Coral Theill this Mother's Day

There's one really great mom who doesn't look forward to Mother's Day at all.

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Self portrait of expressionist artist, Andrea Harris, a portrait of Coral should be finished this year and join the display of "Women of Courage" in Art Galleries and Museums throughout the USA. See the Andrea Harris' website: www.andreaharris.com

(DALLAS, Ore.) - To call Coral Theill's story a tragedy is a vast understatement. It grates at the very essence of what is right and wrong in the world, and proves Americans are guilty of what we accuse other governments of doing, when it comes to the treatment of women.

She was violently physically, emotionally and sexually abused for years, she explains, while her husband, Martin Warner of Independence, Oregon, a "respected member of his church", got off scot free.

It went so far that Coral was threatened with arrest by the Polk County Sheriff's Office, if she continued to bring ongoing marital rape and other spousal abuse complaints to their attention.

Images of Afghan women in '06
by Tim King for Salem-News.com

I personally saw the worst and most oppressive living conditions for women in the world when I covered the war in Afghanistan. They are helpless against rules that are unimaginable by western standards.

Interestingly, Coral has a lot in common with Afghan women; now more than ever in fact. Afghanistan's parliament recently passed the "Shia Family Law" which legitimates marital rape and child marriage for Shia Muslims who make up ~15% of the population.

When Coral spoke up to authorities and tried to reach out, she was silenced by a community where her husband went to church with the right people and had friends in high places.

300 Afghan women recently protested the new law allowing marital rape and nearly 1,000 Afghan men began stoning these female demonstrators. Police struggled to keep the two groups apart, reports the Revolutionary Association of the Women of Afghanistan.

The government did more for those women that day in Afghanistan by separating them from the attacking males, than Polk County ever did for Coral.

Future Hope?

Perhaps Oregon's new Attorney General, John Kroger, will eventually take a hard look at this. Hardy Myers, Oregon's last AG, never did anything to help. The problem is that it will take a representative of Oregon's law enforcement community who has the ability to 'think out of the box'. I will keep writing about it in the meanwhile.

When I spoke to a representative of Kroger's office recently about the former Polk County District Attorney John Fisher's apparent lack of professionalism in this case, which is only one small aspect of Coral's complaints and founded allegations, he told me that the Oregon AG only supports the state's district attorneys.

Here's what happened in the end, in Coral's own words.

"At the time of my divorce, all my 8 children, including my nursing infant, were removed from me by Court Order signed by Judge Norblad, March 10, 1996. My son Aaron Warner, has remained in a relationship with me, since my divorce 13 years ago, and honors me as his mother, to the dismay of his brothers and sisters, who have been told various lies, i.e., that I abandoned them, don't care about them or love them by their father, relatives and church people."

So where does that leave Coral?

Coral with her children several years ago

Well, among other things it leaves her almost completely out of the lives of her eight children in Oregon, many of whom have been, she believes, totally and completely brainwashed by the same abusive male who tormented her, "Marty" Warner.

Victim Becomes Author

The one thing Mr. Warner probably didn't anticipate as he drove Coral into living in an obscure location, was that she would write a book that told her story in stark detail, revealing secrets of surviving torturous mental, physical and sexual abuse as well as massive betrayal by her own people.

As a popular author whose book has been widely read, she has already given a gift to the world that is totally irreversible. Coral's response to having everything taken from her, was to give some more by writing BONSHEA: Making Light of the Dark.

I think my favorite part is that the book is a real hit among Marines serving in Iraq. The Marines know what it is like to lose things also, and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder is the result of too much combat, or spousal abuse, so Coral's writings, based upon the letters she has received from Iraq, has probably saved lives.

I am only offering you a small overview of Coral's relentless spirit and life. I suggest and hope that you follow the links to the previous articles that we have published about Coral. You can also order her book below and you might want to do that after reading the other articles, or even before.

I have taken a personal interest in her case along with noted doctors, professors, psychiatrists and others, and hope to eventually see her be able to rejoin her life in some way.

Polk County doesn't apparently go halfway in matters like this, and Coral has been struggling with child support payments as she tries to survive one day to the next living in basic exile as a refugee of her own community and family.

I have been contacted by people who knew Coral years ago, and each person has told me about what a wonderful mother she always was, and how she loved her children and protected them from harm as long as she could.

On this Mother's Day, as we celebrate and appreciate those who give the gift of life itself, please remember Coral Theill and support her and others like her.

Sadly, she is only one of many women in Oregon and throughout the United States, who were victimized while well within reach, of the fabled long arm of the law.

Another Internet site Coral recommends is: thelizlibrary.org/

BONSHEA is purchased online at: iUniverse.com http://amazon.com and barnesnandnoble.com and has received 12 five star reviews, and a writer's award from iUniverse Publishing. The National Domestic Violence Resource Center in Pennyslvania previewed BONSHEA and is recommending it as a survivor story.

You can also find BONSHEA: Making Light of the Dark by Coral Anika Theill at the Salem, Corvallis, Albany, Independence, Monmouth and Linn Benton and Chemeketa Community Colleges. Copies are also available at Borders Bookstore in Corvallis, Oregon.

Here are previous articles on Coral Anika Theill:

Abuse Under the Watch of Oregon's Justice System - Tim King Salem-News.com

What Abuse Survivors Expect from the Portland Crime Victims Conference - Tim King Salem-News.com

PSA Targets Sarah Palin's Anti-Abortion Position - Tim King Salem-News.com

Marital Rape and Abuse Victim Seeks Justice From Oregon's Governor - Coral Anika Theill Special to Salem-News.com

Welcome to Oregon: Land of Domestic Abuse Endorsement - Coral Anika Theill Special to Salem-News.com

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Tim King is a former U.S. Marine with twenty years of experience on the west coast as a television news producer, photojournalist, reporter and assignment editor. In addition to his role as a war correspondent, this Los Angeles native serves as Salem-News.com's Executive News Editor.
Tim spent the winter of 2006/07 covering the war in Afghanistan, and he was in Iraq over the summer of 2008, reporting from the war while embedded with both the U.S. Army and the Marines. Tim holds numerous awards for reporting, photography, writing and editing, including the Oregon AP Award for Spot News Photographer of the Year (2004), the first place Electronic Media Award in Spot News, Las Vegas, (1998), Oregon AP Cooperation Award (1991); and several other awards including the 2005 Red Cross Good Neighborhood Award for reporting. Serving the community in very real terms, Salem-News.com is the nation's only truly independent high traffic news Website, affiliated with Google News and several other major search engines and news aggregators.
You can send Tim an email at this address: newsroom@salem-news.com




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Rebecca March 29, 2011 6:05 pm (Pacific time)

I have never liked Mother's Day but it took on a new level after the loss of my children. Even in 2007 during my divorce proceeding it took multiple phone calls to the attorney in order to get my children for lunch. I wish Mother's Day would go away.


Coral Anika Theill July 20, 2009 8:23 am (Pacific time)

NEWS ALERT AND UPDATE: Good Morning America and Citizens around the world: When I think my wealthy ex husband, Mr. Marty Warner of Independence, Oregon, has gone to the limit of the definition of obscene and sadistic, he out does himself once again. I am afraid to think of what he will do that could be more low than what he is doing to me today. I have learned a great deal about psychopaths and narcissistic individuals in my research these past many years, especially at one website called: http://sanctuaryfortheabused.com Besides decades of spiritual and ritual abuse, physical and mental abuse, rape and then taking my children from me as a form of punishing me when I divorced him for safety reasons, these past 14 years he has legally stalked and abused me further. He sued me while I have been homeless and disabled, for more child support and brainwashing my children to hate me. Oregon Courts continue to support his abuse. There are few laws to protect women seeking safety. My ex goes one step further today, and his Christian friends, family and church members continue to support him. ***My brother, Donald Alan Hall, was killed in a tragic plane crash in Mammoth Lake, California, July 8th. His girlfriend was also killed too. I learned about this tragedy on July 10th through an email by my brother's former girlfriend. I cared about my brother deeply his entire life. He was my baby brother. His memorial service is this morning at Covenant Christian Community Church, 2630 E. 18th St, The Dalles, Oregon, at 11:00 am. Pastor David will be reading a eulogy I wrote for my brother's service. I cannot legally attend my brother's service. My ex husband, Mr. Marty Warner, will be attending the service, along with my children, who I lost through seeking safety and a divorce 13 years ago. I have lived under a protection program from my ex for 11 years now, because of domestic violence, rape and threats. It would be unsafe and unwise to be at my brother's funeral because for obvious reasons, but the fact that my 2 minor children, who are 14 and 17, will be there, creates legal problems for me. It would be illegal for me to attend my brother's service today. Mr. Warner has custody and I have no visitation privileges, due to the fact I have no monies or attorney and wish no contact with their father. I would be arrested and be in "contempt of court" to be in the vicinity of my children. I have not seen my children for 13 years, after being a nuturing and loving mother for 20 years. Seventy five percent of women seeking safety in America today lose their children in family courts to their abuser. http://batteredmotherscustodyconference.com My father, Bobby Ray Hall, who died 25 years ago, I am sure is rolling in his grave today, knowing his daughter cannot attend her brother's funeral. My brother and I were as close as twins, sharing joy, sorrow and tragedies throughout most of our life. Sadly, my brother adopted an extreme form of legalistic fundamental Christianity (he was a born again, spirit filled Christian like me ex) as his religion in his twenties and choose to shun me 6 years ago until now, when I was living out of my car, disabled and destitute. I truly lost my brother 6 years ago. It made me sad that he would not acknowledge me as a fellow human being, but I learned to respect and accept his choice. Christian friends of mine, attempted to confront him about this, but to no avail. I have had no family, due to their support of my abuser, my ex. I missed Don greatly these past years and have always loved him and always will (before he was a Christian and after). I never thought I would live to see a day like today. I am saddened and grieved at the news of my brother's death. If my ex and children were not there at his service, I could have the choice to attend. My ex did not know my brother and my children have only had contact with him a few times in the past 14 years. My brother has attended my daughter's weddings, I have not been invited or welcome. Oprah Winfrey continues to state that "America is the safest place for women in the world." Her statement is false per my experiences these past many decades. This day and event may be unprecedented. I don't know if this has happened before. I cannot digest fully, the events of today as there is nothing built in my psyche to process this. I attended my father's funeral and gave the eulogy. That was healing for me. The individuals who attend my brother's funeral today and are allowed to talk to and see my children will need to ask themselves, someday this question. "Why are they allowed to attend, and his sister was not." I was extremely close to my brother for 46 of his 52 years. I have many questions today and I hope I live into some answers. Writing is a "healing crisis" for me, so I will be using my experiences to date to write news articles for domestic violence month in October. My friends and mentors say, "Coral, something has got to shift, it can't go on this way." After the news of my brother's death last week, I received another blow. My wealthy ex husband was awarded my disability check, due to the fact that I owe him back child support as he sued me when I was homeless, destitute and disabled for double the amount of monies than I could earn. My ex and many of his Christians friends and supporters remind me of the saying, "If you can't be a good example, you will just have to be a horrible warning." I am having these quotes read at my brother's service today as I believe my brother would appreciate these words. HEAVEN A sage asked the Creator to show him Hell. In it were people on both sides of a long table, seated in front of a big pot of stew. Each person had a spoon with a very long handle, such that they could not get any food for themselves. They were perpetually starving. Then he saw Heaven. Same set-up, but the people were feeding each other. ******* "I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." - Maya Angelou I wish Don's and his girlfriend's family and friends peace and comfort during this most difficult time. Respectfully, Coral Anika Theill Author, Advocate and Mother of Lost Children "Comfort the disturbed, disturb the comfortable"


Abigail Cool May 24, 2009 6:09 am (Pacific time)

Coral, Due to the perverseness of the court systems, I think that 'our problem' is that we believe that 'others' live on a 'moral' or higher level of inner accountability and in reality. They don't.


Earl Richards May 15, 2009 7:08 pm (Pacific time)

Oregon's Attorney General John Kroger is suppose to support the taxpayers and people of Oregon, first, and not the state's district attorneys. His salary comes from the taxpayer. It's time that the legal establishment of Oregon got it straight as to who they are working for, the people and children of Oregon, and not themselves. I believe Judge Paula Brownhill broke the law when she would not grant Coral Theill a phone hearing when Ms. Theill could not make it to the courtroom because of a disability. The judge cannot discriminate on the basis of disabilities. It does not seem right that Judge Paula Brownhill ordered Coral Theill to go to court against the doctor's orders. The doctor is more qualified in this matter than a judge. These judges do not know what the are doing, because they do not know the law. - Earl Richards, Board of Directors, Texhoma Domestic Violence Victims Institute, Inc., www.tdvvi.org


John May 15, 2009 9:36 am (Pacific time)

I don’t know about the case specifics, but doesn’t the Oregon AG have the responsibility to protect its citizens? They should at least review the case and say the complaints have merit or not. I don’t know if there is a way to redress this, but I would think the first stop would be the AG office. AG’s have stepped in to review cases in various states before (North Carolina Attorney General Roy Cooper in the Duke case comes to mind). This case the AG office is working below seems lightweight in comparison with what I just read… “The Oregon attorney general's office is investigating the Recording Industry Association of America's practices regarding 17 University of Oregon students accused of copyright infringement. While the AG isn't minimizing the seriousness of copyright violations, his office has submitted a brief questioning the data mining tactics and subpoena practices employed by the RIAA.” Hopefully along with the headlines there will be some individual legal protections as well.


Elizabeth Bennett May 15, 2009 7:53 am (Pacific time)

Please, for goodness sakes, stop feeding these bullies out there. This ex of hers ripped her apart and his "buddies" backed him up. Remember: Bullies NEVER operate online, they built their allies and all they care about is getting what they want. What kind of a parent turns the children against the other parent? Coral is strong and is a survivor. She has guts and I commend her for all she has been through and is now able to help others. Even though this is not a peer abuse situation, its abuse and I can bet her ex was either a childhood bully or a spoiled brat by his parents. As for the justice system, it failed her and fed another bully. Yeah, the women in Afganistan are treated better, this story is proof positive! Elizabeth Bennett Peer Abuse Know More!


Pam Darwin May 14, 2009 9:23 am (Pacific time)

Coral, It was a joy to meet and chat with you. I just finished reading all of the websites in your email and am in shock. I wish there was something to be done. Is there a website or address to write letters to the Oregon politicians and judges? In this day and age this is a travesty. Not too mention, a very scary thing to realize that there are still areas of the USA where the court system, politicians and police etc are underhanded, work illegally and are unethical. I would never imagine Oregon (the state of liberals) would be like the Ku Klux Klan in the south in regards to women’s rights. I will put you in my prayers nightly. I am going onto the Amazon website to order your book. I think one of the worse cases of abuse comes from the religious fanatics who believe they are above the law and interpret the word of God and the bible to work in their sick advantage. God Bless You. I honestly believe what goes around will come around. However, I can see where in your case this might be hard to believe. The fact that you can still be so positive and continue to fight on is a true testament to your awesome strength and power as a woman. Please keep in touch. I am honored and thrilled to have met you. You are a rock and I honestly believe you will win in the end.


Judy Bennett - Polk County May 11, 2009 4:02 pm (Pacific time)

The saddest part of Coral's story will always be that her children were robbed of her love, grace, strength, creativity and joy. They have been taught a lop-sided perspective on events, distorted by a religion that is based neither on love nor compassion. There is no remedy for them or for Coral, but the fact that the Polk Co courts still threaten to put her in jail for child support due for children the same court stripped from her, is ludicrous. I'm proud to have Coral as a friend.


JD May 10, 2009 11:51 pm (Pacific time)

You go Coral. I know judge norblad. He is a mean DRUNK, who's judgements are for sale. norblad NEEDS TO GO!!!


Clover Quinn May 10, 2009 10:59 pm (Pacific time)

Coral Theill's indomitable spirit and relentless hope have been an inspiration and challenge to me throughout the past eight years or so of our friendship. She has plummeted to the depths, in the areas of health and finances, yet never given up in her inspiring belief that her story's outcome should be reversed so that other women will not suffer the inhumanity she has endured through the Oregon court/legal system. Her husband's efforts to extract child support from her when she was penniless meant her passport was removed from her, her vehicle was absconded, her meager employment lost and her Disability threatened. Yet her humor and her resilience have buoyed her up and she gives generously from her heart to help servicemen and women who have suffered in their own way. She is a hero to all who know and love her. Happy Mother's Day to you, Coral, and may your children rise up to bless you!


Erna Boldt May 10, 2009 6:00 pm (Pacific time)

A very sad story. However, Oregon is a State, where the Sheriff's, the District's Attorney's,and the men in the black robes, (who make their own laws-even defy the Constitution and the Civil Rights Amendments)when they decide who to prosecute, or on who's side the Laws are interpreted. Social Services has no authority,when you come right down to it, the Oregon Bar Association is publishing articles about Abuse Prevention, but NO ONE will take on the Attorney General, who refuses to prosecute (even though authorized to intervene in civil cases)- no matter how the legilature intended the law(s)to read. If you are a woman, you have no voice in the matter, and the courts will drag a woman through hell, rather than admit prejudice and bias under the disguise of final authority of a largely defunct Judicial system in Oregon. Just remember, we voted those with promises into office. Once they are there, the doors are closed to the most vulnerable in our society. IS THIS AMERICA, JUSTICE FOR ALL!!!!! What a crap, we are taught to believe.


Daniel Johnson May 10, 2009 3:16 pm (Pacific time)

Where is Gloria Steinem (or current equivalent) on a specific situation like this?


Justice May 10, 2009 1:16 pm (Pacific time)

I will pray that Coral's children will open their hearts to her, and become a family once more, as they grow old enough to control their own lives and separate themselves from the approval system of their father's home. Happy Mother's Day Coral, you should certainly be celebrated on this special day.


Christine Pahl May 10, 2009 10:19 am (Pacific time)

I have known Coral for about five years. Since we first met, I felt this incredible sense of helplessness in changing the outcome of her tortured life--I say "I" felt a sense of helplessness. Coral, however, has been indomitable. Despite insurmountable odds, lack of a safe place to live and security, lack of any family, legal or emotional support, and a system that exercised traumatic control of her life, she has continued to relentlessly fight back. Her acute intelligence and drive and ability to network are inspirational to all who know her. She thinks deeply and feels intensely. The fervor and passion with which Coral fights back against the injustices that have rained upon her over her lifespan, come from the same deep place from which mothers love and protect their children. On this Mother's Day, who better to honor than Coral Theill--a mother who has modeled for all what love and commitment look like!!!!! Go Coral!!!! Christine Pahl, Mill City, OR


Aurelia May 10, 2009 8:25 am (Pacific time)

Polk County has one of the highest domestic violence and incest rates in Oregon.

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