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This Mother's Day

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Rebecca March 29, 2011 6:05 pm (Pacific time)

I have never liked Mother's Day but it took on a new level after the loss of my children. Even in 2007 during my divorce proceeding it took multiple phone calls to the attorney in order to get my children for lunch. I wish Mother's Day would go away.


Coral Anika Theill July 20, 2009 8:23 am (Pacific time)

NEWS ALERT AND UPDATE: Good Morning America and Citizens around the world: When I think my wealthy ex husband, Mr. Marty Warner of Independence, Oregon, has gone to the limit of the definition of obscene and sadistic, he out does himself once again. I am afraid to think of what he will do that could be more low than what he is doing to me today. I have learned a great deal about psychopaths and narcissistic individuals in my research these past many years, especially at one website called: http://sanctuaryfortheabused.com Besides decades of spiritual and ritual abuse, physical and mental abuse, rape and then taking my children from me as a form of punishing me when I divorced him for safety reasons, these past 14 years he has legally stalked and abused me further. He sued me while I have been homeless and disabled, for more child support and brainwashing my children to hate me. Oregon Courts continue to support his abuse. There are few laws to protect women seeking safety. My ex goes one step further today, and his Christian friends, family and church members continue to support him. ***My brother, Donald Alan Hall, was killed in a tragic plane crash in Mammoth Lake, California, July 8th. His girlfriend was also killed too. I learned about this tragedy on July 10th through an email by my brother's former girlfriend. I cared about my brother deeply his entire life. He was my baby brother. His memorial service is this morning at Covenant Christian Community Church, 2630 E. 18th St, The Dalles, Oregon, at 11:00 am. Pastor David will be reading a eulogy I wrote for my brother's service. I cannot legally attend my brother's service. My ex husband, Mr. Marty Warner, will be attending the service, along with my children, who I lost through seeking safety and a divorce 13 years ago. I have lived under a protection program from my ex for 11 years now, because of domestic violence, rape and threats. It would be unsafe and unwise to be at my brother's funeral because for obvious reasons, but the fact that my 2 minor children, who are 14 and 17, will be there, creates legal problems for me. It would be illegal for me to attend my brother's service today. Mr. Warner has custody and I have no visitation privileges, due to the fact I have no monies or attorney and wish no contact with their father. I would be arrested and be in "contempt of court" to be in the vicinity of my children. I have not seen my children for 13 years, after being a nuturing and loving mother for 20 years. Seventy five percent of women seeking safety in America today lose their children in family courts to their abuser. http://batteredmotherscustodyconference.com My father, Bobby Ray Hall, who died 25 years ago, I am sure is rolling in his grave today, knowing his daughter cannot attend her brother's funeral. My brother and I were as close as twins, sharing joy, sorrow and tragedies throughout most of our life. Sadly, my brother adopted an extreme form of legalistic fundamental Christianity (he was a born again, spirit filled Christian like me ex) as his religion in his twenties and choose to shun me 6 years ago until now, when I was living out of my car, disabled and destitute. I truly lost my brother 6 years ago. It made me sad that he would not acknowledge me as a fellow human being, but I learned to respect and accept his choice. Christian friends of mine, attempted to confront him about this, but to no avail. I have had no family, due to their support of my abuser, my ex. I missed Don greatly these past years and have always loved him and always will (before he was a Christian and after). I never thought I would live to see a day like today. I am saddened and grieved at the news of my brother's death. If my ex and children were not there at his service, I could have the choice to attend. My ex did not know my brother and my children have only had contact with him a few times in the past 14 years. My brother has attended my daughter's weddings, I have not been invited or welcome. Oprah Winfrey continues to state that "America is the safest place for women in the world." Her statement is false per my experiences these past many decades. This day and event may be unprecedented. I don't know if this has happened before. I cannot digest fully, the events of today as there is nothing built in my psyche to process this. I attended my father's funeral and gave the eulogy. That was healing for me. The individuals who attend my brother's funeral today and are allowed to talk to and see my children will need to ask themselves, someday this question. "Why are they allowed to attend, and his sister was not." I was extremely close to my brother for 46 of his 52 years. I have many questions today and I hope I live into some answers. Writing is a "healing crisis" for me, so I will be using my experiences to date to write news articles for domestic violence month in October. My friends and mentors say, "Coral, something has got to shift, it can't go on this way." After the news of my brother's death last week, I received another blow. My wealthy ex husband was awarded my disability check, due to the fact that I owe him back child support as he sued me when I was homeless, destitute and disabled for double the amount of monies than I could earn. My ex and many of his Christians friends and supporters remind me of the saying, "If you can't be a good example, you will just have to be a horrible warning." I am having these quotes read at my brother's service today as I believe my brother would appreciate these words. HEAVEN A sage asked the Creator to show him Hell. In it were people on both sides of a long table, seated in front of a big pot of stew. Each person had a spoon with a very long handle, such that they could not get any food for themselves. They were perpetually starving. Then he saw Heaven. Same set-up, but the people were feeding each other. ******* "I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." - Maya Angelou I wish Don's and his girlfriend's family and friends peace and comfort during this most difficult time. Respectfully, Coral Anika Theill Author, Advocate and Mother of Lost Children "Comfort the disturbed, disturb the comfortable"


Abigail Cool May 24, 2009 6:09 am (Pacific time)

Coral, Due to the perverseness of the court systems, I think that 'our problem' is that we believe that 'others' live on a 'moral' or higher level of inner accountability and in reality. They don't.


Earl Richards May 15, 2009 7:08 pm (Pacific time)

Oregon's Attorney General John Kroger is suppose to support the taxpayers and people of Oregon, first, and not the state's district attorneys. His salary comes from the taxpayer. It's time that the legal establishment of Oregon got it straight as to who they are working for, the people and children of Oregon, and not themselves. I believe Judge Paula Brownhill broke the law when she would not grant Coral Theill a phone hearing when Ms. Theill could not make it to the courtroom because of a disability. The judge cannot discriminate on the basis of disabilities. It does not seem right that Judge Paula Brownhill ordered Coral Theill to go to court against the doctor's orders. The doctor is more qualified in this matter than a judge. These judges do not know what the are doing, because they do not know the law. - Earl Richards, Board of Directors, Texhoma Domestic Violence Victims Institute, Inc., www.tdvvi.org


John May 15, 2009 9:36 am (Pacific time)

I don’t know about the case specifics, but doesn’t the Oregon AG have the responsibility to protect its citizens? They should at least review the case and say the complaints have merit or not. I don’t know if there is a way to redress this, but I would think the first stop would be the AG office. AG’s have stepped in to review cases in various states before (North Carolina Attorney General Roy Cooper in the Duke case comes to mind). This case the AG office is working below seems lightweight in comparison with what I just read… “The Oregon attorney general's office is investigating the Recording Industry Association of America's practices regarding 17 University of Oregon students accused of copyright infringement. While the AG isn't minimizing the seriousness of copyright violations, his office has submitted a brief questioning the data mining tactics and subpoena practices employed by the RIAA.” Hopefully along with the headlines there will be some individual legal protections as well.


Elizabeth Bennett May 15, 2009 7:53 am (Pacific time)

Please, for goodness sakes, stop feeding these bullies out there. This ex of hers ripped her apart and his "buddies" backed him up. Remember: Bullies NEVER operate online, they built their allies and all they care about is getting what they want. What kind of a parent turns the children against the other parent? Coral is strong and is a survivor. She has guts and I commend her for all she has been through and is now able to help others. Even though this is not a peer abuse situation, its abuse and I can bet her ex was either a childhood bully or a spoiled brat by his parents. As for the justice system, it failed her and fed another bully. Yeah, the women in Afganistan are treated better, this story is proof positive! Elizabeth Bennett Peer Abuse Know More!


Pam Darwin May 14, 2009 9:23 am (Pacific time)

Coral, It was a joy to meet and chat with you. I just finished reading all of the websites in your email and am in shock. I wish there was something to be done. Is there a website or address to write letters to the Oregon politicians and judges? In this day and age this is a travesty. Not too mention, a very scary thing to realize that there are still areas of the USA where the court system, politicians and police etc are underhanded, work illegally and are unethical. I would never imagine Oregon (the state of liberals) would be like the Ku Klux Klan in the south in regards to women’s rights. I will put you in my prayers nightly. I am going onto the Amazon website to order your book. I think one of the worse cases of abuse comes from the religious fanatics who believe they are above the law and interpret the word of God and the bible to work in their sick advantage. God Bless You. I honestly believe what goes around will come around. However, I can see where in your case this might be hard to believe. The fact that you can still be so positive and continue to fight on is a true testament to your awesome strength and power as a woman. Please keep in touch. I am honored and thrilled to have met you. You are a rock and I honestly believe you will win in the end.


Judy Bennett - Polk County May 11, 2009 4:02 pm (Pacific time)

The saddest part of Coral's story will always be that her children were robbed of her love, grace, strength, creativity and joy. They have been taught a lop-sided perspective on events, distorted by a religion that is based neither on love nor compassion. There is no remedy for them or for Coral, but the fact that the Polk Co courts still threaten to put her in jail for child support due for children the same court stripped from her, is ludicrous. I'm proud to have Coral as a friend.


JD May 10, 2009 11:51 pm (Pacific time)

You go Coral. I know judge norblad. He is a mean DRUNK, who's judgements are for sale. norblad NEEDS TO GO!!!


Clover Quinn May 10, 2009 10:59 pm (Pacific time)

Coral Theill's indomitable spirit and relentless hope have been an inspiration and challenge to me throughout the past eight years or so of our friendship. She has plummeted to the depths, in the areas of health and finances, yet never given up in her inspiring belief that her story's outcome should be reversed so that other women will not suffer the inhumanity she has endured through the Oregon court/legal system. Her husband's efforts to extract child support from her when she was penniless meant her passport was removed from her, her vehicle was absconded, her meager employment lost and her Disability threatened. Yet her humor and her resilience have buoyed her up and she gives generously from her heart to help servicemen and women who have suffered in their own way. She is a hero to all who know and love her. Happy Mother's Day to you, Coral, and may your children rise up to bless you!


Erna Boldt May 10, 2009 6:00 pm (Pacific time)

A very sad story. However, Oregon is a State, where the Sheriff's, the District's Attorney's,and the men in the black robes, (who make their own laws-even defy the Constitution and the Civil Rights Amendments)when they decide who to prosecute, or on who's side the Laws are interpreted. Social Services has no authority,when you come right down to it, the Oregon Bar Association is publishing articles about Abuse Prevention, but NO ONE will take on the Attorney General, who refuses to prosecute (even though authorized to intervene in civil cases)- no matter how the legilature intended the law(s)to read. If you are a woman, you have no voice in the matter, and the courts will drag a woman through hell, rather than admit prejudice and bias under the disguise of final authority of a largely defunct Judicial system in Oregon. Just remember, we voted those with promises into office. Once they are there, the doors are closed to the most vulnerable in our society. IS THIS AMERICA, JUSTICE FOR ALL!!!!! What a crap, we are taught to believe.


Daniel Johnson May 10, 2009 3:16 pm (Pacific time)

Where is Gloria Steinem (or current equivalent) on a specific situation like this?


Justice May 10, 2009 1:16 pm (Pacific time)

I will pray that Coral's children will open their hearts to her, and become a family once more, as they grow old enough to control their own lives and separate themselves from the approval system of their father's home. Happy Mother's Day Coral, you should certainly be celebrated on this special day.


Christine Pahl May 10, 2009 10:19 am (Pacific time)

I have known Coral for about five years. Since we first met, I felt this incredible sense of helplessness in changing the outcome of her tortured life--I say "I" felt a sense of helplessness. Coral, however, has been indomitable. Despite insurmountable odds, lack of a safe place to live and security, lack of any family, legal or emotional support, and a system that exercised traumatic control of her life, she has continued to relentlessly fight back. Her acute intelligence and drive and ability to network are inspirational to all who know her. She thinks deeply and feels intensely. The fervor and passion with which Coral fights back against the injustices that have rained upon her over her lifespan, come from the same deep place from which mothers love and protect their children. On this Mother's Day, who better to honor than Coral Theill--a mother who has modeled for all what love and commitment look like!!!!! Go Coral!!!! Christine Pahl, Mill City, OR


Aurelia May 10, 2009 8:25 am (Pacific time)

Polk County has one of the highest domestic violence and incest rates in Oregon.

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